What Are You Creating?

Have you ever noticed that when you’re feeling confident and truly happy with yourself, you naturally give more? You want to give – you don’t feel like you have to give. It’s a feeling of abundance, rather than scarcity. When we’re feeling scarce, we feel the need to be selfish, to hold on to things and not give them away. We’re afraid that there’s not enough. We’re protecting ourselves in some way.

It’s similar to when you’re ill  - you don’t have the energy to do what you’d like to do. When you’re not feeling good about yourself, you don’t have enough to give to others. You’re depleted, and in some form or another, you’re afraid.

It really does boil down to fear. Selfishness is a form of fear. Generosity is a form of love. When we are selfish we are worried that there’s not enough of something. Take money, for example. If we’re constantly feeling like there’s not enough, we certainly won’t feel like we can give any away. That energy around the feeling of scarcity will repel the kinds of things you might need in your life to create more money. No matter how much money you have, feel grateful for what you do have, and the energy will transform your scarcity into abundance.

The type of scarcity I hear the most is “there’s not enough time!” Think about it – if you are clear about what you want and you’re living your life in alignment with that, respecting yourself and others, then you will have plenty of time to do the things that are most important to you. Maybe you’re trying to do too much? If that’s the case, just ask yourself “why?”. Perhaps this could be a form of selfishness?

If you’re not naturally feeling generous, look inside to discover what’s going on. What are you most concerned with? If you are generous with yourself, if you take care of your needs first, you can then be generous with others. If you keep your body healthy, you’ll have the energy and drive to do things. If you keep your soul and your mind happy, you’ll have the energy and drive to give to others.

Mother Theresa said “ Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier.”

We can’t genuinely do this unless we’re taking care of ourselves first. Accomplishing this goal takes just a frame of mind. You can create abundance, or you can create scarcity. Can you believe in your heart that there really is enough? Enough time, enough energy, enough money, enough love? Can you believe that you will be fine no matter what? Can you love yourself enough just the way you are? If you want to make a change, that’s OK too – do it with love and fun, rather than fear and judgment. Give to yourself what you need to make yourself happy and then you won’t have to try to give to others. It will come naturally.